I want to show you three powerful steps that can help you prove to the judge that you deserve more time with your children. When you walk into family court, your ex will likely  claim you're not involved enough or don't know your child well. These strategies will give you the tools to fight back with real proof.

The key is to document your time, demonstrate your knowledge, and present your evidence the right way. You probably already do a lot of great things as a parent. The problem is that judges can't make decisions based on what you say alone. They need to see concrete proof that backs up your claims.

Key Takeaways

• Keep a detailed calendar with receipts to show exactly how you spend quality time with your child
• Write a detailed letter to the judge that proves you know important facts about your child's life
• Learn the proper way to submit your evidence so the judge can actually use it in their decision

Making Your Case for More Time with Your Kid

Showing You're an Active Parent

You need to show the court clear proof of your time with your child. A simple desk calendar can do this job well. Write down every visit with your child on the calendar. Include the exact times you had them with you.

Take any receipts from activities you did together and staple them to the correct date. This creates a record of real moments you shared with your child. The calendar becomes proof that you spend quality time with your kids.

What to Track - Use the DAD's Diary:

• Start and end times of each visit
• Activities you did together
• Receipts from places you went
• Notes about what happened during the visit

You also need to draft a declaration (it's like you write a letter to the court). This proves you know your child well. Don't just say you're a good parent. Show it with specific facts about your child's life. Use the Kid Inventory from the Child Custody Action Plan book (available on this website in the main menu)

Include details like:

• Medical information and health needs
• What foods they like and dislike
• Dietary needs or restrictions
• Names of their best friends
• Teachers' names
• Shoe size and clothing sizes
• Favorite places to visit
• How you spend time together

These details prove you pay attention to your child's life. When the other parent claims you don't know much about your child, you have written proof that shows otherwise. The court can read this letter before your hearing and see all the ways you're involved.

Responding to Claims Against You

The other parent will likely tell the court negative things about you. They might say you don't spend time with your child. They might claim you're careless or don't do things correctly. These statements are often just attempts to make you look bad.

You need to fight these claims with real proof. Statements alone won't help your case. The court needs to see actual evidence that backs up what you say.

The court can only use evidence that gets properly submitted and accepted. Many parents bring text messages or photos to court but never get them admitted the right way. If evidence doesn't get admitted, the judge cannot use it to make decisions.

You might have hundreds of text messages that prove your point. But if they're not admitted correctly, they're worthless to your case. The judge legally cannot look at evidence that wasn't properly submitted.

Learning the correct way to submit evidence is critical. You need to know the steps to get your proof in front of the judge in a way they can legally use it. Without this knowledge, even the best evidence won't help you.

Making the Most of Your Dad's Diary

Tracking Your Parenting Hours

You need a desk calendar to show exactly when your child is with you. Write down the specific times you have your child each day. For example, note if they were with you from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM on a particular date.

This calendar creates a clear record of your parenting time. The judge can look at it and see exactly how much time you spend with your child. It's a basic tool that proves you're present in your child's life.

Keeping a Log of What You Do Together

Take the receipt from any activity you do with your child and staple it directly onto the calendar on that day. This shows the judge what you're doing when your child is with you.

The calendar becomes proof that you're actively parenting. It's not enough to just say you spend time with your child. You need to show the court what happens during that time.

This method is straightforward. Every time you do something with your child, you create a record of it. The receipts and notes work together to build your case.

What to include:

• Start and end times for each visit
• Activities you did together
• Receipts from outings or purchases
• Any special events or occasions

Writing Your Declaration to the Court

Showing What You Know About Your Child

You need to prove to the judge that you know your child well. This means writing down specific details about their life.

Include information like:

• Your child's medical care and health needs
• What foods they love and what foods they won't eat
• Their best friends' names
• Their school teachers' names
• Their shoe size
• Any dietary restrictions they have

When mom tells the court you don't know much about your child, you can show the judge you actually know a lot. You can tell the judge specific facts about your child's life. This proves you're not a negligent parent.

The key is being specific. Don't just say you're a great dad. Show the judge you know real details about your child's daily life.

Showing How You Care for Your Child

Your letter needs to explain what you do with your child. Write about the activities you share together and how you spend time with them.

Tell the judge about:

• Places you go together (like theme parks or other locations)
• How you get along with your child
• What you do during your time together
• The ways you take care of them

This is information you already know. You just need to put it on paper so the judge can read it before your court hearing.

Mom might say you're lazy or that you don't do things right. Your letter fights against these claims by showing what you actually do.

Getting Your Message to the Judge

Your letter goes to the judge and explains why you're a good father. The judge will read this letter in their office before they hear your case.

You can't just walk into court and say "I'm a great dad." The judge needs something to back up your words. That's what this letter does.

Your letter lays out all the reasons why you're an amazing father. It gives the judge facts they can review and consider when making their decision.

Write down everything you know about your child and everything you do together. Put it in a clear format that's easy for the judge to read and understand.

Collecting Your Proof

Building Your Record of Parenting Time

You need to keep a detailed record that shows how much time you spend with your child and what activities you do together. This record helps prove to the court that you're actively involved in your child's life.

Use a desk calendar to track your parenting time. Mark each day you have your child and write down the specific hours they were with you.

Key steps for tracking:

• Save receipts from activities you do with your child
• Staple each receipt to the calendar on the day of the activity
• Note the start and end times of your parenting periods
• Document what you did during each visit

This creates a simple visual record that demonstrates your involvement. The calendar becomes physical proof of your time and activities with your child.

Meeting Court Requirements for Your Proof

A judge can only make decisions based on proof that gets accepted into the case. You might have hundreds of text messages or photos, but they don't matter if they aren't properly accepted by the court.

Your proof must be submitted to the judge first. Then it needs to be admitted before the judge can use it to make decisions.

Many parents lose their cases because their proof never gets accepted. The judge isn't allowed to consider materials that haven't gone through the proper acceptance process.

Write a detailed letter to the judge that includes:

• Specific information about your child's medical care
• Your child's food preferences and dietary needs
• Names of your child's best friends
• Names of your child's teachers
• Your child's shoe size and other personal details
• Activities you regularly do together
• How you interact with your child

This letter proves you know your child well. When the other parent claims you don't know much about the child, you have written proof that shows otherwise.

The letter should contain facts about your relationship with your child. Don't just say you're a great parent. Show the judge through specific details that you're involved in every aspect of your child's life.

Filing Your Materials Correctly

Your proof needs to reach the judge through the right process. Simply having good materials isn't enough if they don't get into the case file properly.

Submit all your materials according to court rules. Each court has specific requirements for how parents must file their proof.

Your calendar record and detailed letter work together. The calendar shows your time and activities. The letter demonstrates your knowledge of your child's life.

Make sure both documents get submitted and accepted. Without proper submission, the judge cannot rely on your materials when making a custody decision.

The other parent may make negative claims about your parenting. Your properly submitted proof gives the judge facts to consider instead of just accusations.

Using dadslawschool.com Resources

You can learn all these strategies at dadslawschool.com. The Child Custody Action Plan teaches you step by step how to collect the evidence you need to win your case.

The program shows you how to write effective letters to the judge. You'll learn how to present evidence in court properly. These skills help you demonstrate to the judge that you're an excellent father.

What You'll Learn:

• How to collect and organize evidence
• How to write compelling statements to the judge
• How to get your evidence properly admitted in court
• How to document your relationship with your child
• How to respond to false claims from the other parent

You probably have many positive things to share with the judge about your relationship with your child. Mom will likely come to court and claim you don't have a relationship with your kid. She might say you're negligent or lazy. She might say you don't do things correctly.

These claims are often just distractions from the truth. You need to show the judge why you're a great dad with real evidence.

The program focuses on proof rather than just words. A judge needs concrete evidence to make decisions in your favor. Without proper documentation and evidence, your words alone won't be enough.

dadslawschool.com gives you the tools to become the father you already are, in the eyes of the court. The VIP Program training helps you translate what you already do into a format judges understand and respect.

You'll learn how to counter false accusations with facts. You'll discover how to present yourself professionally in court. The program teaches you the specific steps that work in family court situations.

Sign up today to start building your case the right way.